The science of lasting change

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“Stepping into uncertainty is required of us to break away from what’s not serving us.”

Some hold the adage that people can’t change. The truth is that change is automatic, but progress is not.

Change is a fundamental law of nature. Everything is either growing or dying. The same goes for human beings. But if all it takes to grow is knowing what you want and changing your approach until you succeed, then why doesn’t everyone do it?

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Because a personal transformation must take place to create lasting change.

Think of a situation or a change you tried to make for years, then transformed. You might have applied the chemistry of transformation without even knowing it.

See if these five stages apply to your own life. How could you use each stage to serve a current situation you’d like to change?

1. Satiation

Imagine your most cherished dish, the one you’d choose for your final meal. Let’s say that dish is prime rib, and you have the luxury of enjoying it every evening.

The first few days are glorious. The meal hits the spot again and again. But after a few weeks, something starts growing inside you.

Satiation.

No matter how much you enjoy prime rib, you feel content now. You fulfilled your craving. But soon, you begin to search for something else…

That’s because humans have a need for change and inherently seek growth. This drive for growth ultimately fuels our decisions and fulfillment in life. Growth is life; stagnation is not. Even when life seems ideal, progress remains the key to true happiness.

You may not suffer from eating the prime rib. You might even continue to enjoy the prime rib. But it doesn’t satisfy you as it once did. At this stage of satiation, you don’t feel compelled to address the waning satisfaction yet. You simply feel complacent with where you are.

However, satiation serves as an early sign that something’s amiss. It sows the seeds of transformation. Satiation can act as a signal for the next big thing – but only if we recognize it.

You might feel like delaying action, believing that it’ll be more comfortable to remain passive. However, this approach just delays your transformation and leaves you feeling stuck.

Ultimately your satiation will grow and reach the next stage – unless you already made the change. Satiation will grow until it becomes dissatisfaction.

2. Dissatisfaction

At this point, you feel bad about the thing you used to feel good about. The prime rib no longer makes your mouth water. It does the opposite. It repulses you.

This step of dissatisfaction is crucial for reaching the next stage of change. If we simply remain satiated, we have no compelling reason to change. When you’re dissatisfied, you start feeling pain instead of pleasure. You no longer feel content.

The pain also sparks your mind to consider the idea of change. You start questioning the current situation. “Should I still be eating this prime rib?” you ask yourself. “Isn’t there better food to eat? Is this even healthy?” You no longer want to eat prime rib for the rest of your life and start to consider other options.

This is the time to ask yourself better questions and explore what your next steps are.

Something that may help you navigate life is to hone in on what’s not satisfying you in this current season.

Think about your relationships, health, career, finances and emotions. What area are you dissatisfied with?

What’s not working? What’s not serving you? What can you improve? Dissatisfaction leaves clues and it’s up to you to piece them together.

3. Emotional threshold

At this point, the brain says, no more. I’ve been doing the same thing over and over again and I’m getting the same results. This doesn’t feel good. I’m at my breaking point. I can’t keep doing life like this…

It can feel massively uncomfortable at this stage. But this is a place of power. THRESHOLDS are what create change.

Without the pain, we don’t change. That pain triggers us to do something about it. This is where the magic happens. When you reach your threshold, the scale tips in the other direction and drives you to take action.

You might not know how to make the change, but you now know there’s something you’ve failed to do, and that there’s something you must do.

It isn’t easy to reach this tipping point. Sometimes, this threshold is our darkest moment. Whether it’s going through a breakup, losing your job, facing serious health issues, or eating another prime rib, it takes courage and strength to get past this pain.

The good news is that once you reach this threshold, change becomes a must and you gain momentum. You no longer tell yourself the limiting story that change isn’t worth it. On an emotional level, you now understand that change is the only way forward.

This emotional threshold is a powerful force that triggers the next stage: a moment of insight.

4. Moment of insight

After crossing the emotional threshold, there’s a moment of insight that strikes our mind. We recognize that our current actions no longer benefit us. We understand that we must act differently to break our existing patterns.

It’s like a light bulb turning on in our psychology or an awakening from a long sleep.

An ah-ha moment.

You gain a deeper understanding of your situation. You realize your biography is not your destiny. Your past is not your future. Your old patterns are not your only option.

It’s a turning point in your life because it allows you to see things from a new perspective and make the change that will change your life.

This moment of insight offers a transformative opportunity: the gift of embracing a new identity.

5. The Opening: Claim Your New Identity

Upon reaching your emotional threshold, there’s an incredible opportunity to transform and claim a new identity: to tell yourself, “Not another day, not another hour, I’m fixing this now.

Forget my ego…

My inability…

My excuses and fear…

In that moment, there’s an opening. If you jump through it, you create a lasting transformation in your life.

A transformation that leads to action. You push beyond your comfort zone. You do something incredibly difficult that pushes you to the limit. When you succeed at what you once thought impossible, your brain says, “THIS is who I am. If I can do this, what else can I do?”

But because it’s the unknown, we can lose momentum and repeat the entire process. That’s why, when you make this decision, you must immediately do something that guarantees you will follow through later. Make a call. Schedule a meeting. Anything to get you to commit.

Remember, momentum comes from massive action. If it doesn’t work at first – do something else.

Just don’t give up and never accept failure. Be flexible and learn by modeling people who achieved the results you want.

Soon, there will be no possibility of returning to the old way.

Most people would rather deal with the devil they know than the unknown.

If you’ve been stuck for years, repeatedly getting the same result, it’s because you’re missing the chance to jump through the opening. And then the cycle repeats itself.

The only way to get through is to choose faith over fear – tap into the deep sense of certainty that you have a higher purpose and that something larger than yourself is pulling and guiding you.

Because repeating the process is far more painful in the long run than stepping into temporary uncertainty.

So, can a person change? They can do better than change. They can evolve, improve, and transform.

And they can decide to never again return to their old patterns that were never serving them to begin with.

Is there a situation in your life that doesn’t require change but needs you to apply the chemistry of transformation?

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